Why Don’t You Just Adopt?
When I was going through IVF—and in the thick of not succeeding—I was depressed in a way I didn’t think was possible. People thought they were being comforting when they asked me, “Why don’t you…
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Owning My “Dirty Little Secret”
In October 2024, I wrote my first post on this blog called “My Dirty Little Secret—Exposed.” It was the first time I admitted, publicly, what I had been hiding for so long: my story of…
View PostMore to Life Than Children? Why That Phrase Hurts More Than It Helps
“Stephanie, there is more to life than children.” That’s what my ex-husband said to me when I told him that all my IVF options had failed with my current husband. I had nothing left—no more…
View PostBeyond Pity: The Empowered Narrative of Childfree not by Choice
Women who are childfree not by choice are beyond the narrative of pity. When I stopped IVF and ended my parenthood journey, I was worried about people pitying me. The stigma of infertility seemed unbearable…
View PostFrom Silence to Solidarity: When I Decided Not to Pursue Parenthood Anymore.
When I decided not to pursue parenthood anymore, I felt so alone. Was there anyone else like me who gave up? Yes, there was Jennifer Aniston, but she did not take up the mantle of…
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