I hate the word “childless”. It makes me feel less and not whole. “Childless” weighs on me. To me, it implies that I decided my own fate and that I did not want to have a…
View PostA CFNBC Reflection on Love, Laughter, and Letting Go I went from being an Anti–Valentine’s Day person to being a Neutral Valentine’s Day person. In my adult years, I learned from my ex-husband that Valentine’s…
View Post2025 was a big year. Things were accomplished. Things were not. There were detours along the way. But as a Childfree Not by Choice (CFNBC) woman, this was the first year that felt truly different.…
View PostI am in Paris for Christmas, and I keep thinking about success and failure and why we use these words to measure women’s procreation via IVF. The image above shows me with my friend’s…
View PostSupport groups, community healing, and shared grief once terrified me. I was deeply cynical about group spaces and afraid of “drinking the Kool-Aid,” so for most of my life, I stayed away. I tried joining…
View PostI didn’t begin journaling to process infertility grief. In the early days, it wasn’t even on my radar. I was still debating whether to foster again, still hoping a different agency might open a door…
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