I Thought My Strong Will Was Enough to Survive Infertility — Here’s What I Learned

I thought I could survive infertility on sheer will. I was strong, tough, resilient, a bit punchy when I felt I was being wronged or when I was trying to protect someone I loved. I…

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Resources for Living Childfree Not by Choice

When I first began looking for resources for living childfree not by choice, I thought I’d find shelves of books, communities, podcasts, and tools waiting for me. The truth? It took me over a year…

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Why Don’t You Just Adopt?

When I was going through IVF—and in the thick of not succeeding—I was depressed in a way I didn’t think was possible. People thought they were being comforting when they asked me, “Why don’t you…

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Owning My “Dirty Little Secret”

In October 2024, I wrote my first post on this blog called “My Dirty Little Secret—Exposed.” It was the first time I admitted, publicly, what I had been hiding for so long: my story of…

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More to Life Than Children? Why That Phrase Hurts More Than It Helps

“Stephanie, there is more to life than children.” That’s what my ex-husband said to me when I told him that all my IVF options had failed with my current husband. I had nothing left—no more…

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