It’s Called Breathing

When I first met my therapist (August, 2023), my mind was in total disarray. I wasn’t sure what could possibly help, and breathing exercises? Yeah, I wasn’t sold. I mean, we all breathe, right? I wasn’t one of those people who thought mindful breathing or any of that stuff could actually make a difference. It seemed too simple. But I was at a point where I was willing to try anything.

The first thing my therapist taught me was to breathe—really breathe. Not just the automatic kind we do all day without thinking, but intentional, controlled breathing. She taught me to inhale for five seconds, hold it for four, and then exhale for six. She suggested I do this whenever I started to feel anxious, and honestly, I was skeptical. But I gave it a shot.

And let me tell you—wow. Who knew that something as basic as breathing could make such a big difference? I started doing it all the time. The moment I felt that familiar rush of anxiety, I’d pause and breathe. I wasn’t expecting much, but soon enough, it was like my body started to calm down. The tension would ease up, my thoughts would slow down, and I could actually focus on the present. All from breathing.

It wasn’t something I had to overthink or plan. I could do it anywhere—at my desk, in the car, lying in bed. Whenever I needed a moment of peace, I’d just take a few deep breaths, and boom—instant calm. It’s funny, right? You hear about these breathing techniques, you read about them or watch reels on Instagram, but it’s easy to brush them off. I know I did, until I finally needed it.

Now, it’s become a part of my daily routine. Not just for when I’m anxious, but when I want a break from everything. When I’m sitting outside, soaking in the sun, or just taking a minute to be still, I’ll breathe deeply, and it feels like hitting the reset button. It’s not just about calming down—it’s about appreciating the moment.

At this point, it’s second nature. I don’t just breathe like this because I’m anxious—I breathe like this because it feels good. It’s become this little act of self-care that I can do anytime, anywhere. I don’t need a yoga mat or a meditation app. I just need a few seconds to myself.

And look, I’m not saying deep breathing is going to solve all your problems. But if you’re feeling stressed or anxious, just try it. Take a deep breath in for five, hold for four, exhale for six. Do it a couple of times and see what happens. You might be surprised.

I certainly was. Who would’ve thought that something as simple as breathing—something we all do without thinking—could change everything? My therapist knew, and now I do too.