Not-Less
A space to talk about the emotional journey of infertility, fostering and adoption failure, the struggles of letting go, and finding peace in a life that didn’t go as planned.
Tools and Resources

What I Did — and Didn’t Do — in 2025 as a Childfree Not by Choice Woman And How it Can Help You, Too

What I Did — and Didn’t Do — in 2025 as a Childfree Not by Choice Woman And How it Can Help You, Too

2025 was a big year. Things were accomplished. Things were not. There were detours along the way. But as a Childfree Not by Choice (CFNBC) woman, this was the first year that felt truly different.…

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Challenging Stigmas

Success and Failure. Why do we use these terms?

Success and Failure. Why do we use these terms?

  I am in Paris for Christmas, and I keep thinking about success and failure and why we use these words to measure women’s procreation via IVF. The image above shows me with my friend’s…

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Challenging Stigmas

What “Failure” Means to an IVF Woman — Why That Word Hurts

What “Failure” Means to an IVF Woman — Why That Word Hurts

I’ve always hated the word “failure”. It’s sharp. Final. Heavy. And as a former IVF woman and a perfectionist, I hate it even more. For years, my life revolved around cycles, medications, numbers, hope. When…

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My Journey

I Thought My Strong Will Was Enough to Survive Infertility — Here’s What I Learned

I Thought My Strong Will Was Enough to Survive Infertility — Here’s What I Learned

I thought I could survive infertility on sheer will. I was strong, tough, resilient, a bit punchy when I felt I was being wronged or when I was trying to protect someone I loved. I…

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My Journey

Owning My “Dirty Little Secret”

Owning My “Dirty Little Secret”

In October 2024, I wrote my first post on this blog called “My Dirty Little Secret—Exposed.” It was the first time I admitted, publicly, what I had been hiding for so long: my story of…

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