Not-Less
A space to talk about the emotional journey of infertility, fostering and adoption failure, the struggles of letting go, and finding peace in a life that didn’t go as planned.
My Journey

I Thought My Strong Will Was Enough to Survive Infertility — Here’s What I Learned

I Thought My Strong Will Was Enough to Survive Infertility — Here’s What I Learned

I thought I could survive infertility on sheer will. I was strong, tough, resilient, a bit punchy when I felt I was being wronged or when I was trying to protect someone I loved. I…

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Owning My “Dirty Little Secret”

Owning My “Dirty Little Secret”

In October 2024, I wrote my first post on this blog called “My Dirty Little Secret—Exposed.” It was the first time I admitted, publicly, what I had been hiding for so long: my story of…

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Rituals of Reclamation: Why I Finally Got My First Tattoo

Rituals of Reclamation: Why I Finally Got My First Tattoo

I never thought my first tattoo would come at this stage of my life. I had always imagined it would mean something different. For years, I told myself I’d get one. I sketched designs, pictured…

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The Superstitions That Took Over During IVF

The Superstitions That Took Over During IVF

When IVF Made Me Superstitious About Everything During my IVF journey, I became superstitious about almost everything. If I did this, maybe it would work. If I didn’t do that, maybe it wouldn’t. One time,…

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This Isn’t the Midlife I Imagined — Here’s How I Pivoted at 55

This Isn’t the Midlife I Imagined — Here’s How I Pivoted at 55

I used to think midlife would look different. I thought there’d be kids. A family. A rhythm to my days that followed school schedules and bedtime routines. But instead, I’m here—childfree not by choice, trying…

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