I am in Paris for Christmas, and I keep thinking about success and failure and why we use these words to measure women’s procreation via IVF. The image above shows me with my friend’s…
View PostThe Jennifer Aniston Effect is what happens when one woman’s truth makes millions of others visible. After twenty years of speculation about when Jennifer Aniston would have children—or why she had not yet become a…
View PostI’ve always hated the word “failure”. It’s sharp. Final. Heavy. And as a former IVF woman and a perfectionist, I hate it even more. For years, my life revolved around cycles, medications, numbers, hope. When…
View PostThere’s a question that has haunted me for years. A question that echoes in fertility clinics, family gatherings, even in whispered conversations with friends: “But did you try everything?” It’s not asked with cruelty (usually).…
View PostWhen I was going through IVF—and in the thick of not succeeding—I was depressed in a way I didn’t think was possible. People thought they were being comforting when they asked me, “Why don’t you…
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