Why Do We Have to Prove We Tried Everything?

There’s a question that has haunted me for years. A question that echoes in fertility clinics, family gatherings, even in whispered conversations with friends: “But did you try everything?” It’s not asked with cruelty (usually).…

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Why Don’t You Just Adopt?

When I was going through IVF—and in the thick of not succeeding—I was depressed in a way I didn’t think was possible. People thought they were being comforting when they asked me, “Why don’t you…

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This Isn’t the Midlife I Imagined — Here’s How I Pivoted at 55

I used to think midlife would look different. I thought there’d be kids. A family. A rhythm to my days that followed school schedules and bedtime routines. But instead, I’m here—childfree not by choice, trying…

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When the Miracle Doesn’t Come: The Shame No One Talks About After IVF

Did I Not Pray Hard Enough? The Unspoken Shame Behind ‘Miracle Baby’ Culture I used to believe in the miracle baby. That one more round of IVF, one more sign from the universe, one more…

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More to Life Than Children? Why That Phrase Hurts More Than It Helps

“Stephanie, there is more to life than children.” That’s what my ex-husband said to me when I told him that all my IVF options had failed with my current husband. I had nothing left—no more…

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