Not-Less
A space to talk about the emotional journey of infertility, fostering and adoption failure, the struggles of letting go, and finding peace in a life that didn’t go as planned.
Challenging Stigmas

Success and Failure. Why do we use these terms?

Success and Failure. Why do we use these terms?

  I am in Paris for Christmas, and I keep thinking about success and failure and why we use these words to measure women’s procreation via IVF. The image above shows me with my friend’s…

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Challenging Stigmas

What “Failure” Means to an IVF Woman — Why That Word Hurts

What “Failure” Means to an IVF Woman — Why That Word Hurts

I’ve always hated the word “failure”. It’s sharp. Final. Heavy. And as a former IVF woman and a perfectionist, I hate it even more. For years, my life revolved around cycles, medications, numbers, hope. When…

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My Journey

I Thought My Strong Will Was Enough to Survive Infertility — Here’s What I Learned

I Thought My Strong Will Was Enough to Survive Infertility — Here’s What I Learned

I thought I could survive infertility on sheer will. I was strong, tough, resilient, a bit punchy when I felt I was being wronged or when I was trying to protect someone I loved. I…

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Challenging Stigmas

When the Miracle Doesn’t Come: The Shame No One Talks About After IVF

When the Miracle Doesn’t Come: The Shame No One Talks About After IVF

Did I Not Pray Hard Enough? The Unspoken Shame Behind ‘Miracle Baby’ Culture I used to believe in the miracle baby. That one more round of IVF, one more sign from the universe, one more…

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Challenging Stigmas

More to Life Than Children? Why That Phrase Hurts More Than It Helps

More to Life Than Children? Why That Phrase Hurts More Than It Helps

“Stephanie, there is more to life than children.” That’s what my ex-husband said to me when I told him that all my IVF options had failed with my current husband. I had nothing left—no more…

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Not-Less
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