Not-Less
A space to talk about the emotional journey of infertility, fostering and adoption failure, the struggles of letting go, and finding peace in a life that didn’t go as planned.
Challenging Stigmas

Success and Failure. Why do we use these terms?

Success and Failure. Why do we use these terms?

  I am in Paris for Christmas, and I keep thinking about success and failure and why we use these words to measure women’s procreation via IVF. The image above shows me with my friend’s…

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Tools and Resources

Why Support Groups Terrified Me — And What I Learned From Them

Why Support Groups Terrified Me — And What I Learned From Them

Support groups, community healing, and shared grief once terrified me. I was deeply cynical about group spaces and afraid of “drinking the Kool-Aid,” so for most of my life, I stayed away. I tried joining…

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My Journey

What Am I Supposed to Say About Mother’s Day as CFNBC?

What Am I Supposed to Say About Mother’s Day as CFNBC?

I Don’t Have Advice. Just Honesty. It’s hard to write about Mother’s Day. What am I supposed to say? I don’t have new wisdom for women who are childfree not by choice (CFNBC). No checklist…

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