The Jennifer Aniston Effect

The Jennifer Aniston Effect is what happens when one woman’s truth makes millions of others visible. After twenty years of speculation about when Jennifer Aniston would have children—or why she had not yet become a…

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What “Failure” Means to an IVF Woman — Why That Word Hurts

I’ve always hated the word “failure”. It’s sharp. Final. Heavy. And as a former IVF woman and a perfectionist, I hate it even more. For years, my life revolved around cycles, medications, numbers, hope. When…

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I Thought My Strong Will Was Enough to Survive Infertility — Here’s What I Learned

I thought I could survive infertility on sheer will. I was strong, tough, resilient, a bit punchy when I felt I was being wronged or when I was trying to protect someone I loved. I…

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Why Do We Have to Prove We Tried Everything?

There’s a question that has haunted me for years. A question that echoes in fertility clinics, family gatherings, even in whispered conversations with friends: “But did you try everything?” It’s not asked with cruelty (usually).…

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Resources for Living Childfree Not by Choice

When I first began looking for resources for living childfree not by choice, I thought I’d find shelves of books, communities, podcasts, and tools waiting for me. The truth? It took me over a year…

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